“People Who Need Help Sometimes Look A Lot Like People Who Don’t Need Help.”
This blog post really could be addressed to anyone recovering from an injury, who has experienced death in their life, or divorce. The emotional landscape has similar themes amongst these three pivotal rights of passage (& yes, they are that). Let me get some things immediatley out of the way that are uncomfortable and disconcerting. No one told me these things would happen. They just did, and they were unexpected. I don’t want you to feel the same shock I did, so if you ever experience any of the above mentioned transitions, you can expect one or more of the following to happen to you:
1) Your heart will break more than any body part ever will
2) People who you thought would help you in your most vulnerable state don’t
3) People who you never thought would help you in your most vulnerable state do
4) Your social circle will dissipate
5) You will feel alone
6) You will be scared
7) You will question your capabilities
8) You will transform into a new person (whether you like it or not)
9) You will not look at situations, people and circumstance with the same set of eyes again
10) If you’re in the medical profession, you will become better at your job
Remember these things.
I’ve always been drawn to male dominated sports. I was skateboarding with the boys as a kid. Racing them on bikes. Tried to join the high school surf club in 1992, and was not allowed to (yes, even in the 90’s). The teacher who was the head of the club looked at me and said, “Oh, I’m sure you have better things to do than surf. Why don’t you join the cheerleading squad?” So, that’s what I did. I would still bike down to the beach on my lunch break, and watch the surfers with envy.